People often see a sexologist, sex or relationship therapist for any issues regarding sex, these can be a variety of things related to identity, lifestyle, relationships or more directly arousal, function and desire. A good sexologist will have qualifications, be non judgemental, respectful and ethical.
One of the first things a sex therapist will do, besides asking why you are there, is to take a sexual and familial history. They will be looking for things that may contribute to the reason you are there and to get a picture of who you are, where you have come from and what you have experienced. Sexologists come from a biopsychosocial perspective and will look at a variety of things that may be impacting on you sexually.
Issues with sexual or gender identity (LGBTIQ+), relationships (Poly), or lifestyles (Kink, BDSM) may require counselling, education and linking with other like-minded people.
Sexual issues or dysfunctions can have several causes:
They can also fall into several categories:
The sex therapist will explore the issue further by defining it as:
All of this information gathering will take time, some therapists may take several sessions to gather all they need to make a diagnosis and treatment plan while others may have a longer first session.
Treatment may require medical tests to ascertain biological causes, changes in medications, exploring relationships and messages about sex the person has taken on board, levels of sexuality education and sex knowledge, the impact of values and morals as well as the thoughts and emotions the person holds about sex and the issue they are experiencing.
There may be sessions providing sexological education, because lets admit it we probably did not get very much when we were younger, and we often don't know what we don't know.
Sometimes there are take home activities, to do alone or with your partner, these may be about increasing communication, intimacy, or sexual response.
So if you are experiencing any issues with your sexuality linking with a Sexologist might be just what you need to help you resolve what ever is bothering you.
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.