EMOTIONAL
How we feel about ourselves and others will impact on our ability to feel sensual and to reach our potential.The relationships in our lives, with ourselves, family, friends and partners can all be enhanced to be sensual experiences. We will explore options to improve our sense of self worth, self esteem, confidence and how we emotionally interact with others in future workshops and on the Facebook page. For Daily updates on everything about Respectful Relationships pop over to Love Is.....Respectful Relationships on Facebook.
LANGUAGES OF LOVE
We all have several languages of love, these are the things that let us know we are loved and how we let others know we love them. We may have one that we prefer to hear and it may be different to the one that we speak to others, the 5 languages are: gift giving, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch and quality time. So if we speak a different language of love than our loved ones do, we may both be saying "I love you"but it can be like one speaking Japanese and the other is speaking Arabic, we just do not recognise what the other is saying. We can learn to speak other people's languages and then understand what we are saying to each other. For videos about each language click here: Acts of Service, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch and Receiving Gifts. More information on the languages of love from Dr Gary Chapman is here.
RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships come in may forms, self, family, friends, partners and less important acquaintances may be people at work, in the neighbourhood, at a group or activity we attend.
But all healthy, significant relationship have some things in common, there are feelings involved and qualities that we expect and value.....love, trust, honesty, communication, caring, respect, support, independence.
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But all healthy, significant relationship have some things in common, there are feelings involved and qualities that we expect and value.....love, trust, honesty, communication, caring, respect, support, independence.
Keep updated daily on the latest on Respectful relationships at Love Is....Respectful Relationships
on Facebook
SELF
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship in our lives.
If we create a happy, healthy, loving relationship with self then other relationships often follow the same way.
If our relationship with self needs work then we often make unwise choices around other relationships in our lives and how we let others treat us.....the old saying goes "We show others how to treat us" ...if we do not love and respect ourselves then it is hard for us to allow others to do so.
But we can change this, we can learn to not be so hard on ourselves, to accept where we are right now, to work towards being our best version of ourselves, to be proud of what we have endured and how far we have come.....we are all a work in progress. When we can accept that we are flawed and working towards a better us then we can bring into our lives people that will support us along our journey.
If we create a happy, healthy, loving relationship with self then other relationships often follow the same way.
If our relationship with self needs work then we often make unwise choices around other relationships in our lives and how we let others treat us.....the old saying goes "We show others how to treat us" ...if we do not love and respect ourselves then it is hard for us to allow others to do so.
But we can change this, we can learn to not be so hard on ourselves, to accept where we are right now, to work towards being our best version of ourselves, to be proud of what we have endured and how far we have come.....we are all a work in progress. When we can accept that we are flawed and working towards a better us then we can bring into our lives people that will support us along our journey.
FAMILY
Relationship with family can be tricky but they set us up for all other relationships in our lives.
If we grow up in a loving, respectful family we learn to treat others in that way and our relationships with self and others are healthy, if our family relationships are less than ideal we often learn from this and can have difficulty maintaining healthy relationships unless we learn new ways of doing relationship by self education and those we observe.
It is interesting that sometimes we will let our family treat us in ways we would never let others treat us, families can be toxic too and it can hard to set and maintain boundaries or to break way from this.
For some, their family of origin was so toxic that they create new families, families of choice, people that love, honour and support us in the way we desire.
If we grow up in a loving, respectful family we learn to treat others in that way and our relationships with self and others are healthy, if our family relationships are less than ideal we often learn from this and can have difficulty maintaining healthy relationships unless we learn new ways of doing relationship by self education and those we observe.
It is interesting that sometimes we will let our family treat us in ways we would never let others treat us, families can be toxic too and it can hard to set and maintain boundaries or to break way from this.
For some, their family of origin was so toxic that they create new families, families of choice, people that love, honour and support us in the way we desire.
FRIENDS
Those who we choose to be our friends are very important to us....as mentioned above, these people are often our chosen family when things are not well with our birth family.
They are often the people we turn to first in times of need, if we don't turn to our family or partner.
We will often accept behaviour in our friends that we would not take from our partner or family, often due to the fact we can choose when we spend time with them, we may see friends daily, weekly, monthly or even less often.
Some friends come and go quickly, others last a while and others a lifetime.
They are often the people we turn to first in times of need, if we don't turn to our family or partner.
We will often accept behaviour in our friends that we would not take from our partner or family, often due to the fact we can choose when we spend time with them, we may see friends daily, weekly, monthly or even less often.
Some friends come and go quickly, others last a while and others a lifetime.
PARTNER
The thing that sets our relationships with partners apart from other relationships we have in our lives is the type of love we feel for them and....sex.
Just like other relationships in our lives they may be healthy or unhealthy, an we may accept treatment that is not good for us from our partners, in the name of love. This can happen when we do not love ourselves, when we have not had good role models of healthy, respectful, supportive love or when we buy into the myths perpetuated by fairy tales and media about what love is.
These intimate partners may be one or several (polyamory), our relationships may be closed or open, and the people involved in the relationship are the ones who decide what the relationship will look like.
Find more information on multiple relationships or open relationships on the DIVERSITY page here
A great little infograph on healthy relationships here
HEALTHY VERSUS UNHEALTHY
We have mentioned previously some of the qualities of a healthy relationship and sometimes it is hard for us to recognise when a relationship is not good for us.
Most of us know the signs of an abusive relationship, physical , emotional, verbal, sexual , financial, social and spiritual abuse......but often there are other subtle signs that a relationship is not working and supporting each member to be their best self.
Respectful relationships, no matter who they are with, contain several key ingredients: love, caring, respect, honesty, trust, commitment, support, autonomy, freedom to be your true self and other values that are important to you.
Find put more about Respectful Relationships at LOVE IS....Respectful Relationships on Facebook.
If you are experiencing abuse in your relationships and need support contact DV Connect here and 1800 811 811
Most of us know the signs of an abusive relationship, physical , emotional, verbal, sexual , financial, social and spiritual abuse......but often there are other subtle signs that a relationship is not working and supporting each member to be their best self.
Respectful relationships, no matter who they are with, contain several key ingredients: love, caring, respect, honesty, trust, commitment, support, autonomy, freedom to be your true self and other values that are important to you.
Find put more about Respectful Relationships at LOVE IS....Respectful Relationships on Facebook.
If you are experiencing abuse in your relationships and need support contact DV Connect here and 1800 811 811
