ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES and SEXUAL PRACTICES

Here you will find information on safe, sane and consensual alternative lifestyles and sexual practices., including kink, fetishes, BDSM and other esoteric practices. This site will only provide basic information and links as there are many wonderful sites with much more comprehensive information. Check out Curious Creatures, Kinkly, Fetlife,
BDSM - (Bondage/Discipline), (Dominance/Submission), (Sadism/Masochism)
As the title suggests BDSM encompasses several different dynamics, that involve power play between consenting adults.
Activities engaged in may be role plays of dominance and submission, bondage, discipline, sadism (enjoys inflicting pain) and masochism (enjoys receiving pain), impact play, sensory play, needle and blood play, electric play and many more.
Check out Dr Doe explaining BDSM here
Activities engaged in may be role plays of dominance and submission, bondage, discipline, sadism (enjoys inflicting pain) and masochism (enjoys receiving pain), impact play, sensory play, needle and blood play, electric play and many more.
Check out Dr Doe explaining BDSM here
Safe, Sane and Consensual

The key words are that play must be safe, sane and consensual.
Play is negotiated between all involved before hand, soft and hard limits are agreed upon, safe words and actions are implemented. It is important for all people playing to be able to make informed consent, so it is unwise to engage in drugs or alcohol.
This link will take you to a very good consent card at the Curious Creatures website and a negotiation resource on Kinkly
Find more on Consent from Dr Doe here
There is another clip looking at consent in a dungeon here
Play is negotiated between all involved before hand, soft and hard limits are agreed upon, safe words and actions are implemented. It is important for all people playing to be able to make informed consent, so it is unwise to engage in drugs or alcohol.
This link will take you to a very good consent card at the Curious Creatures website and a negotiation resource on Kinkly
Find more on Consent from Dr Doe here
There is another clip looking at consent in a dungeon here
Equipment

There are many different types of BDSM equipment, we will look at a few of the most common ones and where to get more information on how to use them safely.
TOP LEFT - Collection of paddles, whips, quirts and crops
TOP RIGHT - Wrist retsraints
MIDDLE LEFT - Whartenburg wheel
MIDDLE RIGHT - Paddle
BOTTOM LEFT - Flogger
BOTTOM RIGHT - Temporary piercing
A great book to use as an introduction to BDSM can be located here _http://www.amazon.com/SM-101-A-Realistic-Introduction/dp/0963976389
TOP LEFT - Collection of paddles, whips, quirts and crops
TOP RIGHT - Wrist retsraints
MIDDLE LEFT - Whartenburg wheel
MIDDLE RIGHT - Paddle
BOTTOM LEFT - Flogger
BOTTOM RIGHT - Temporary piercing
A great book to use as an introduction to BDSM can be located here _http://www.amazon.com/SM-101-A-Realistic-Introduction/dp/0963976389
Kinks and Fetishes (Paraphylias)
There are many people who have kinks and fetishes and this is not a problem unless they are illegal, do harm to others without their consent. Below is a list that can be engaged in with other consenting adults and not be an issue or a disorder:
Exhibitionism: exposing genitals or sex in front of others
Fetishism: the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement.
Frotteurism: the recurrent urges or behavior of touching or rubbing against another person.
Masochism: the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer.
Sadism: the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting.
Voyeurism: the recurrent urge or behavior to observe a person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities.
Transvestite fetishism: a sexual arousal towards the clothing of the opposite gender.
Coprophilia: sexual arousal to faeces.
Klismaphilia: sexual arousal to enemas.
Urophilia: sexual arousal to urine.
Find a more extensive list check out _HERE
Exhibitionism: exposing genitals or sex in front of others
Fetishism: the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement.
Frotteurism: the recurrent urges or behavior of touching or rubbing against another person.
Masochism: the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer.
Sadism: the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting.
Voyeurism: the recurrent urge or behavior to observe a person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities.
Transvestite fetishism: a sexual arousal towards the clothing of the opposite gender.
Coprophilia: sexual arousal to faeces.
Klismaphilia: sexual arousal to enemas.
Urophilia: sexual arousal to urine.
Find a more extensive list check out _HERE