Today my family celebrate the birth of my eldest grandchild, 8 years ago, it is one of many at this time of year, 3 down and 4 to go over the next month. And there seems to have been an inordinate number of birthdays and anniversaries over the past few weeks. It got me thing about how we celebrate those milestones in our lives.
We celebrate, births (and then the same day every year), relationships and their anniversaries, in some cultures other milestones like puberty and menopause, and finally the life people have lived as they part this world. So many of these are celebrations of sexuality and us being sexual beings but so often our culture does not celebrate and promote healthy sexuality.
So how can we each as individuals and a society, celebrate and promote sexuality, sensuality, eroticism and sex?
Sex Positivity.......what is that you ask? The comic below, from www.ohjoysextoy.com , answers this questions in an easy to read manner. I personally don't like the term 'tolerance', I much prefer celebration but I guess we must start somewhere.
For me, sex positivity includes understanding we enjoy different things and that's ok, as long as they are safe, sane and consensual (the BDSM mantra works in many areas) and just because it does not 'float my boat' does not mean that it is wrong, just different, promoting education on all things sexual so that people are empowered by knowledge to make healthy sexuality choices, and that sexuality covers a whole range of things, not just sex. Sexuality is also how we identify our gender, sex, sexual orientation, it is what turns on our minds (fantasy), and our bodies and the sexual activities that we enjoy, it is our bodies and what they can do for us, give us pleasure, reproduce and allow us to experience sensuality alone or with others.
What it does not mean is that you have to enjoy everything that other people enjoy, that you have to do everything that other people do or that you have to promote things that do harm to people or are non consensual.
So now take the time to explore how sex positivity works in your life, is it something that you are already, or is it something for you to consider as you move forward on your journey to acheiving your sensual potential?
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.