With the passing of Prince last week and David Bowie a few weeks earlier, I pondered their gender presentations and how they championed a diversity of expression that can be a gift to us all.
Our society presents an overarching paradigm that tells us the following:
Assigned female at birth will identify as girl then woman, will present in a feminine way, and will pair bond for life with a male/man to procreate in a monogamous, long term relationship.
Assigned male at birth will identify as boy then man, will present in a masculine way, and will pair bond for life with a female/woman to procreate in a monogamous, long term relationship.
Now I am not judging if this is right or wrong….it just is….
Now those people who do not align with these messages are considered suspect….people who choose not to have children, to pair bond, masculine presenting women, feminine presenting men and LGBTIQ people. There have been people who do not conform for thousands of years, some societies celebrate differences while others societies condemn.
The people who buck the system and do so in public are a great example for those people who do not conform in their own way. We have been blessed to have public figures lead the way in expressing their gender in non-conforming ways, the 70s and 80s spawned an amazing array of such bands and people: Queen, Kiss, Prince, David Bowie, Freddy Mercury just to name a few. Many have left this mortal earth but they leave behind a legacy for those who follow…thank you.
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.