I have been missing in action for the last two Friday blogs as I have been visiting my mum for her 80th birthday in another state and accompanying my partner on a work trip up north.
But I am back and I was wondering what I would write about to cover being away, after going through many, many emails I came across this one by Ev'yan Whitney, someone who I am subscribed to, about Sensuality and I thought this worked well considering my business name.
So I am going to copy and paste what I recieved from Ev'yan as I think she put it beautifully.
"So, what exactly is sensuality?
Here's what I know:
Sensuality is the vibrancy of every moment. It's an invitation for you to open wider, to tune in closely, to be present actively.
Sensuality is connection—connection to your surroundings, connection to your body and inner rhythms, connection to what feels good.
Sensuality is instinctual primal enjoyment. When you are engaged in sensuality, you listen keenly with your senses. Time slows, inhibitions lower, and pleasure expands your body.
Without sensuality, your life would be dull, mechanical, unfeeling. And you feel deeply.
Sensuality lives in your breath, in the soles of your feet, on the tip of your tongue, and in the sacred voice of your intuition.
I believe that you don’t need to be taught how to be sensual; it is inherently within you. You only need to open to your natural capacity to feel and sense and be.
I believe that sensuality is your birthright, that moments of slowness, succulence, and inner listening are imperative for sexually liberated living.
I believe that sensuality is easily accessible, that every breath is an opportunity for you to experience the sensual and awaken fully to this gorgeous moment—even if it’s filled with busyness or chaos.
I believe that sensuality is yours for the taking. All you need to do is give yourself permission to play.
If you want to be sensual (a quick how-to):
1. Breathe—deeply, consciously.
2. Go slowly.
3. Seek pleasure wherever you are, in whatever you’re doing.
4. Open yourself to the richness of each moment.
5. Develop a relationship to the desires of your body.
6. Create a dedicated self-care practice.
7. Go inward and ask yourself what you want / need.
8. Explore your capacity to experience pleasure—in and outside the bedroom.
9. Trust your body and intuition and their ability to guide you.
10. Consciously make space for your senses to open you. . .
. . . to this gorgeous moment, to the depths of your ability to feel, to the pleasure you know your body is capable of.
But especially: Give yourself permission to play (it doesn't have to be so serious all the time!)."
So what do you think of what Ev'yan has to say? For me sensuality is all about getting in touch with yourself, your senses, your environment and the people in your life.
I am going to practice these 10 tips......are you?
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.