Once again some wonderful points made by Ev'yan Whitney, this time about Sexuality.
Sexuality can mean many different things to each of us, I like what Ev'yan has to say, I could not have put it better myself.
See her words below:
"1. Everyone is sexual.
Your grandmother. Your great-uncle. Your next door neighbor. The homeless man sitting in a wheelchair. The girl with coke-bottle glasses that bags your groceries.
They all have sexual energy coursing through their bodies, just as you do.
Sexuality is not a privilege or a gift presented to an exclusively selected mass of people. It is bestowed upon all us from the moment we are conceived and its essence is carried with us into the afterlife.
We are all born with sexual energy emanating throughout our organs, cells, and muscle tissue. All of us. How (and if) we choose to actualize our sexual nature is as personal and unique as the color of our eyes.
2. Sexuality is fluid.
As much as we’d all like to think that our sexuality can be housed within rigid labels, it’s not as simple as that. Our sexual energy isn’t specific, it just is what it is: erotically, carnally, instinctively sexual.
I like to think that anyone can form the way they express their sex energy through intimate self-discovery. It is such a liberating experience to make that decision to explore outside our perceived boxes.
To choose flexibility, to try exploration, and to accept the sometimes flightiness of our sexual nature. . . this is your right as a sexual being.
Maybe the box we tick underneath the word “Orientation” doesn’t have to be cemented for the rest of our lives. Maybe just as we evolve, so does our sexuality and the way we express it.
That is, if we give ourselves permission to explore. (And I want for you to give yourself permission.
3. Your sexuality is expressed in many ways.
Not just within the act of sex (or intercourse) but in other things: The art you create. The tone of your voice. The musical notes you pluck on your harp. The manner of which you walk. The poetry in the words you speak.These things contain sexual energy because you contain sexual energy.
You don't need to have sex to be a sexual being. You already are one, even as you are sitting here reading these words.
Perhaps you don’t feel as sexual now when compared to when you are fully aroused. But trust me… your erotic energy is there.
Try to remember that it's there with you. Always.
4. You cannot get rid of your sexual nature.
You can diminish it with negative thoughts. You can scare it away with religious dogmas. You can abstain from sexual pleasure for decades. But you will never be without your sexuality. You can never stop being a sexual being.
Your erotic energy is always within you and it will always be a part of you. So you may as well embrace it.
5. Your sexuality should be explored.
Experiment. Stay curious. Maintain a state of intrigue about your sexuality and all that it encompasses.
Like, what does it mean to you to be straight (or gay, or bi, or queer)? Did you choose the orientation you identify with or were born with it? What do your sexual desires look like? What turns you on? If you could give your sexual energy a color or shape, what would it be?
Ask questions about your sexual nature. Your answers might surprise you.
6. Your sexuality is sacred.
The expression of it. The definition of it. The way it makes you feel. Your sexuality, no matter what it looks like, is beautiful. It is yours and no one else’s.
There’s no need to compare your sexual energy to the way it is expressed by others. Just as there is no one identical human being on this planet, there is not one identical expression of sexuality.
There is also no preferred type of sexuality. It can be as subtle, as broad, as passionate, as unrefined as you would like for it to be.
And that’s just it. Be."
SO, what do you think of what Ev'yan has to say on sexuality?
What does sexuality mean to you?
How do you express your sexuality?
Remember, your sexuality, is your sexuality, is unique to you and how you identify and express it is totally up to you and is just fine (as long as it does no harm, is safe, sane and consensual).
So get out there, live your best self and embrace your sexuality, whatever it may be.
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.