As my student placement comes to a close and I write my placement report for uni, I have had time to reflect on my time with a local sex therapist.
I have had the opportunity over the past few months to sit in on a few sessions and observe, to discuss a variety of cases and even to provide psychosexual education. I have also had the opportunity since promoting myself and my studies more broadly to answer questions, provide information and support to a range of people online.
So why would someone come along and see a sex therapist or even reach out for support around their sexual wellbeing? I recently came across this list of reasons and I will add some of the ones I discovered recently
1. Seeking help with confidence and low self-esteem/self doubt2. Self-exploration/personal “journey”
3. Coping with past abuse/trauma (sexual, emotional, physical, etc.)
4. Coping with sexual shame and/or guilt related to sexuality
5. Learning sexual communication skills
6. Help with unsatisfactory sexual response (lack of sex drive, trouble achieving orgasm, etc.)
I would also add:
And I am sure over the years I will be able to add many more.
One of the important things to remember is that we do not come to sex knowing what to do, it is a learned skill. If we have not been provided with good information in a sex and body positive way then we may have a whole range of issues stem from lack of or misinformation.
Difficulties with sex or relationships cross all sexes, genders, sexualities, cultures, ages and socio-economic groups. So there is no need to be embarrassed, feel fear, shame or guilt.....we often don't know what we don't know....so do not be scared to reach out.....you are not alone.
Richelle has had a passion for sexuality and sexual health since 2001. She has worked in the field since 2006, providing sexuality education in schools, and adult education in the topics of diverse sexualities and gender identities, LGBT health issues, sexual health and LGBT relationships.
This is a space for me to share with you my journey as a Sexologist, the things I learn and the people I meet and what I think and feel along the way.